I have been down the rabbit hole for days, Cheats is distracting me, from my work on Allison. To be very honest this was one of the stories that I wanted to write during NaNoWriMo this year, but Delilah won out. More on her to come during editing later next year.
This book Cheats will not sleep so I have made a deal with myself, to put some other projects aside and work on Cheats after I have gone nuts and had enough of the daily grind of Allison edits.
These stories are about so much more than a collection of cheating spouses. As I see it there are many more ways to be unfaithful in a relationship. A friend reminded me of a story about a girl she knew that essentially put her life on hold for the dreams of her husband. Of course her husband knew, but he took the gifts she gave him because he could.
We often don’t realise the effect this has. She was a loving partner, and willingly surrendered herself and her direction in life for what she thought was the good of the relationship. It was not. She became a resentful passionless doormat. He could of fixed things, he could of stopped taking. She could of been truthful and stood up for herself and perhaps after some jumping up and down he would have been okay about it. Instead, she cheated herself, and him. Her kindness and willingness to surrender herself suffocated their relationship.
My dear friend is a big Keith Urban fan, and knows how songs inspire me. She told me that this song reminds her of the couple she knew. Keith blames the man, (himself) for destroying a beautiful relationship through selfishness, for always taking and not taking care of her.
Who really it to blame? We teach people how to treat us. She taught him that her needs didn’t matter and he was not strong enough to push past her faux objections to treat her the same. Stupid boy wasn’t mean or abusive, he was just selfish, weak and immature.
Nothing better when exploring heartache that some good old country music…